World Congress of Families Gather to Inspire on Day One!

Hundreds of the world’s best and brightest pro-family scholars, religious leaders, anthropologists, sociologists, educators, doctors, policy makers, government officials and legal minds have converged in Sydney, Australia for the World Congress of Families 2013. Their goals include presenting powerful data and discussion to help further defending, preserving and maintaining the family as the fundamental building block of society. It’s about shifting key debates surrounding preserving and maintaining the natural family unit.

Because I am so grateful for the opportunity to attend and because I want everyone to experience it and learn from these incredible people, I’m obtaining video and website link to all the presentations and will be sharing it as soon as it is available. Trust me, you will want to pour over them and share them. They are outstanding!

Here are brief recaps from each of the speakers I heard at World Congress of Families on my first day. It’s approaching midnight here in Sydney, so I hope my notes are reasonably coherent. J

My initial impression was that this is a gathering of righteous people who are fearless in defending faith and family. The power in this Congress is that it's tangible and real. One thing that became immediately apparent, was the caliber of the presenters: they are sharp, educated, articulate and powerful public speakers. The media tend to show a very different picture of those who have strong religious and pro-family belief. Far too often they paint them as uneducated, inarticulate, redneck bible thumpers (for lack of better terms). This is what the media would have us believe but this couldn’t be further from the truth.

The World Congress is about children and the future of the family. Essentially, this is a “family of families” and a fight for the family. We can’t do it alone and this is why WCF is so critical. Allan Carlson, founder of World Congress of Families, talked about the debates in the UN and about the nature of the family and said that:

“The World Congress of Families envisions a culture of marriage where young women are growing into wives, homemakers and mothers. Where young men are growing to be husbands, home builders and fathers.”

Honorable Greg Smith, Attorney General of NSW Australia said, “Thank you for not avoiding a discussion about the more controversial and difficult topics!”

A fascinating speech was given by Konstantin Malofeev of Russia (bio forthcoming). He talked about Communism and the huge advances Russia has made towards Christianity. 30 years ago, Christians from the West helped Russia out of Communism and out of a culture of erasing God and religion from their life. Now, the tables have turned. The Western culture is in the process of erasing God and religious belief out of life. Ironically, Russia is becoming more pro-family and pro-religion. “Like the Christians 30 yrs ago that helped us overcome Communism, now it is our turn to give back to you and help you with family and Christianity.” (His speech was powerful and emotional—wait for the video!)

Dr. Ian Harper, Australia’s best known economists: “I’m a well known economist but more importantly, I’m a husband, father and grandfather.” “Healthy families are essential to healthy economies. Where economies struggle, look at the structure and nature of the breakdown of the family.”

Bradford Wilcox, Director of the National Marriage Project and Sociologist: (Fascinating presentation!)

Kids thrive on stability and two parent homes. Strong families are due to strong fathers and mothers in the home, but it is the father in the home that really makes the difference in the success of his children educationally. The value of two parent families are contingent upon the father and how engaged he is.

Honorable John Anderson, former Deputy Prime Minister of Australia and religious leader:

  •      Why isn’t the pro-family, pro-religious movement not gaining more traction?
  •      What can each of us do when we return to our communities to affect change? 
  •      Why is it so difficult to affect change? 

The breakdown of the family is essentially the breakdown of truths and absolutes. There is self-obsession in the name of equality. We’ve lost the sense of what we traditionally believe as true/false and right/wrong. Our young people need to be better educated in morals! We’re losing our ability to engage in sound debates. You MUST believe in truth and believe that one outcome is better than the other (i.e. man/woman = marriage). If you have bad debates in government, you will get bad public policy. Society has forsaken absolute truth and we are struggling to have a reasoned debate with the other side.

What can we do together?

1. Recommit and remodel our own commitment to absolute truth. How can we expect deep committed relationships in our children if the world around them doesn’t honor commitment? We must be a model of commitment for the rising generation.

2. Engage in reasoned debate. Commit to a higher standard of analysis. Respectfully engage with the other side. Use personal stories of how marriage affects you, how divorce affected you, etc. 

 Real stories by real people = trust. Don’t forget to honestly showcase personal stories by people affected by family breakdown. Often they may not want to share but they need to be encouraged so that we can have personal and real stories to show why marriage matters and what affect divorce etc. has on the children.

3. Remember who we’re fighting for: CHILDREN.

We need to muster all the commitment we have and see it as a challenge but not overwhelming or all consuming/depressing.

Dr. Patrick Fagan, Senior Fellow at the Family Research Council in Washington D.C.

Farming analogy

The quality of the seed (children) sown is dependent on the quality of the farmers (parents). The family is the future of the world. The woman in the home raising children is of greater value than the husband in the marketplace. Divorce alone creates 1/6 drop in the economy each year in the USA. Key: Chastity and monogamy. The restoration of chastity is essential!

William B. May, USA “Getting the Marriage Conversation Right”:

There is a campaign of intimidation and silence. The victims are our children. We need new ideas, new ways of thinking and opening up a new front so that we are on the offence and not the defense. The battle for marriage is in our home and we need to learn ways to teach it so our children can speak and defend it without fear. How can we do this?

1. Learn better ways of communicating our values to our children.

2. Research: Get well versed in research on the need for mothers and fathers. Religious sermons are wonderful but we need to be able to talk about marriage from a non-religious perspective as well because this is what will ultimately cut right to the heart of the matter with non-religious people.

3. Identify false premises that are being taught in the media. We need to speak truth: Marriage unites a man and a woman with each other and any children born from their union

The #1 thing to remember is that marriage is worth fighting for! The dominant elitist left would want you to think you are losing so you won’t fight. But remember: History is not written yet.

Peter Westmore: 

A child needs a model of each sex. It is the optimal configuration since time began. We all hear the argument that same sex marriage is inevitable. However, if we listen to this argument, we just might believe it. But 90% of the world’s countries are against same sex marriage, only 13 have allowed it. That means 90% of the population don’t want it. 

Not one country in Asia wants it. Not one country in the Islamic world wants it. And note that these are all non-Christian countries. The countries that have legalized gay marriage have abolished a child’s birthright and children have been/will be subject to an uncontrolled social experiment. No government should allow laws legalizing and normalizing a motherless or fatherless situation.

Jose Ureta, France. Marriage for All, the French Experience: (This was a fascinating presentation!)

1.5 million French citizens marched on Paris against gay marriage, making it the largest rally in all of French history. This movement interestingly enough was driven by the younger 20-30 something aged generations. Why? They have seen the result of their parents’ generation which was rife with divorce and moral relativism, and they have had enough. There is an awakening of faith filled youth in France! The younger generation is more conservative than their parents. They are rising and ready to fight for family values. They are rejecting moral liberalism.

*The neatest thing happened in this session! I was sitting by the young man (probably in his mid 20’s) who was one of the top rally leaders against gay marriage in France. Someone started cheering in the audience for the courage of these French young people, and then they started, one by one, singing La Marseilles, the French anthem. The whole auditorium started clapping and everyone who knew the words started singing. It was incredible and inspiring!!

Keynote Speaker: Dr. Janice Crouse, UN Delegate on Commission for Women, Presidential Speech Writer...

The family is under attack in numerous and unprecedented ways. It is imperative for each of us to understand social science and use this evidence to teach the future generations.

- When we deviate from the norm, fixing the broken pieces of the family is extremely complex and difficult.

- Every child needs an adult who is absolutely crazy about him/her.

-Children are the only future the family and any nation have.

Question and Answer Panel of Experts:

John Anderson:

- Western Society is doing to ourselves voluntarily what communism did to the world (i.e. erase God, religion and morals from society).

- Let’s understand that we have not equipped our children with the framework or moral vocabulary to combat moral relativism. What we need to do a.s.a.p: 1) Get our own houses in order and humbly extend our examples of family life and religious belief to others; 2) Get ready for battle. We’re fighting for our children and the future of the world.

- Live a life that is worthy of our children to follow.

- We need to be courageous; we cannot afford to be complacent.

- It is UNBELIEVABLY important for our children to have a mother and a father. Yes, there will be single parents and often they will feel offended or feel sensitivity to this issue. But truth is truth and we must still teach the ideal and show the research of how important it is that children have a married mother and father. But it must be taught with sensitivity and kindness and gently work through the issue and research in a supportive way.

Angela Fallentine reporting directly from The World Congress of Families conference, Sydney, Australia, May 15, 2013.

Photography: Angela Fallentine
Mormon Children's Choir
World Congress of Families convention floor

Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts, Angela! I don't know about the rest of you, reading her report, but I am overwhelmed with the amount of information she has sent to us from WCF, and I can truly feel the Spirit of the conference, and Angela's spirit of enthusiasm in being there on our behalf. What a treasure trove of fabulous and inspired counsel; and to think she has given us only the tip of the iceberg, so to speak of what she's actually experiencing, and what will come out of this conference and be made available to us very soon!

I also have one more treat for you, from Angela, that I will post a little later today!

Kathryn Skaggs

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  1. Some great material here. The children's choir is from an adjoining Stake to mine. :)

    1. Isn't it! Fabulous, Denise! Where are you from, and if you can, tell us about this choir?

    2. That was the Sydney Australia Hebersham Stake Primary Choir. The chorister was Paige Hobby and her husband, a member of the Hebersham Stake Presidency, Kimball Hobby.

    3. I'm from the Blue Mountains on the western edge of the Sydney metropolitan area. My Stake is Penrith Stake. These children are from Hebersham Stake. Penrith Stake was divided from Hebersham Stake about 10-12 years ago. I don't know anything else about the choir at this stage. Sorry

    4. Outstanding, MattP! I will update the blog with that information. Thank you!

  2. Some would opine that simply planning families through selective abortion is very pro-family. By thinning the ranks, you can prioritize. While that is contrary to LDS philosophy, it's not necessarily contrary to many so-called Christians who choose their "sins" by choosing the particular congregation and minister based on what sins they want to feel justified in committing. (with a whited sepulcher to slap a seal of approval on the sin).

    I agree, Kathryn that those who are not against us are for us. But some people have very skewed views when it comes to "the family" and whether the revealed word of God is the guideline or their lusts become the guideline.

    1. Because "some" hold an evil opinion will never make it right, and in the case of family planning by way of abortion, again we're talking evil. But you're right, there will always be those groups who will form their own way, to hear what they want to hear, in order to perpetuate their own way.

      So, thank heaven that we have good people, globally, who form organizations, such as World Congress of Families, and gather together to educate one another in order to educate the rest of us as to what is happening to destroy the natural family -- and help the rest of us know better how we can work together to maintain the family for future generations.

      Each one of us have a voice, and we can use that voice to speak out in ways that align with these various truths as we understand each. As members of the LDS faith, we should be at the forefront of this movement and feel a great comradery others who feel the same.

  3. I was truly blessed to travel with these children, and be the photographer (under the direction of the Hebersham Stake Public Affairs Director, Matthew Parsons), when these angels delivered the eternal message to global leaders that everyone is truly a Child of God and that everyone deserves to Walk in the Light. TRULY INSPIRATIONAL!!!

    I love these children and thank Heavenly Father every day for my own children and a loving righteous husband, and that I have the opportunity to work with a lot of them each Sunday as their Singing Time Leader. We have a wonderful Stake (Hebersham), and if anyone wants to hear this Primary Choir 'perform' once more, then Stake Conference this Sunday at Hebersham Stake Centre, 64 - 66 Pringle Rd, Hebersham at 10am. Jenni Parsons

    1. Thank you, Jenni! I can genuinely feel the Spirit in your writing, of how truly inspiring your experience was, working with these children of God, and their righteous influence at the World Congress of Families! Thank you for taking the time to share with us!

    2. Kathryn, I travelled to and from this event with a bus load of the boys and you could hear the nervous chatter as we drove the 1 1/2 hours to the performance. BUT, on the return trip these young men were so relieved, YET very excited and inspired, that they sang various Primary songs all the way home, and there were conversations going on about "when I serve my mission ..." This Primary Choir received 2 rounds of applause from the participating delegates and many compliments followed regarding their voices, yet also that they were willing to participate and Stand for the Right!

  4. Kathryn, this is wonderful! I hope to be able to attend a few of these throughout my life. Can I ask what you do? I'm graduating next year from BYU-Idaho and am looking into different career paths and options all centered around marriage/family/child advocacy. Thank you!

    1. Hi Melissa, I'm happy to answer any of your questions! I loved attending World Congress of Families and think you would really enjoy it with our area of expertise. It was incredible and inspiring to be with so many like minded people from around the world. I love your ideas for career paths--you are so needed in the world! Although my career has mainly been in international & government/public affairs, I am passionate about the family and advocacy esp. as a member of the Church, so please feel free to email me with any questions at